Chapter 10: The View from Your Child’s Eyes

The essence of this chapter is to steer parents towards a clearer view of the concepts involved in creating positive self esteem. A child’s self concept being developed by age six gives very little time to present positive experiences in the ratio that psychologists suggest is necessary, 80% positive to 20% negative, especially when all statements of an instructional nature are considered negative. What does this reality mean in terms of interacting with your child to give him a positive self concept at such an early age? Clear guidance is given with regards to the frequent mistake of false “positives” that can be very destructive to self esteem. Empty compliments cannot replace the actual mastery of skills, even at such an early age, children know the difference.